Free will

Free will. An old concept, essential and familiar to everyone. The ability to make decisions freely and then generate good or bad consequences is the raw material of life and the world we live in today. However, I see that people do not understand or do not know that sometimes certain decisions are required, and they only opt for passivity and waiting. I think this is to use free will without the proper knowledge and the consequences of this can be extremely harmful.

An example is the eternal passions. I know several people who fell in love and for some reason did not end up together or were separated. Many of them have something in common: a feeling that remains. They believe that time will erase it and their role is just passively wait for this to occur, but often it does not. Some feelings that we have are forgotten only if we choose to forget. It is an active role, because unless you do not decide to forget with all your heart, you will continue to feed these emotions voluntarily or even involuntarily, and sometimes you will maintain a hope that something will happen between you and this person in the future. If you really want to get rid of that feeling, take an active role to decide to forget because your actions will be directed to forget and you will not feed this feeling.

This also applies to bad experiences or frustrations with people. Deciding to forget certain experiences or resentment is an active role in which time should not play a big part. If we just wait on time to try and fix the issue, we are only prolonging the problem instead of mending the wound. If we have not played an active role in forgetting this bad experience, the wounds are sure to be ripped open again when something occurs that reminds of it or if we see the person who was involved. The problem is not in having bad experiences, but letting them have a hold on our life or our way of being. You cannot change your past but your past can change you if you allow it.

So use your free will to make decisions. Choose to forget passions without a future, frustrations and resentments. Decide to forgive and be free from your past wounds. Our life is made up of choices. When we take a step forward, inevitably we leave something behind us. So leave behind what harms you and walk into the future and meet new people. And may you always remember that while we are still holding on to our past, our arms are not free to embrace the present.